Well, first I must apologize for not blogging as much as I have in the past. To be honest, my body has not been up to it. It’s been rough lately. Still, here I am and I’ve noticed something. It seems like cancer is a magnifying glass to whatever I’m feeling or my little family is feeling. Have you noticed that?
If I’m happy, I’m overjoyed. If I am sad, I am often beyond consolation. There is so much weight bearing down on us day by day that every little thing becomes a giant thing under the magnifying glass of cancer. I think, I need to figure out a way to bring things into balance. I will say, this is not an easy task. Yes, I know that God loves me and mine and that he sees all but, in a practical day by day, “Who spilled the milk?” kinda way, I need to figure out a way to normalize things for us.
Cancer Isn’t Just About Cancer
You see, cancer isn’t just about cancer. It’s about money problems, time and scheduling, traveling to distant places to get treated repeatedly, making meals when you’re exhausted, trying to do the best for your family when you have nothing left to give. It’s about explaining why you cannot be at the birthday party, or why your son cannot play sports as well as the other kids because you cannot even get outside to do that with him. Cancer is about not being able to take care of the house because you’re either too sick or too fatigued. If my son cries one more tear because of my cancer, well…. I don’t know what I’ll do. It stabs me in the heart. Cancer is more than cancer. It’s everyone’s common problems rolled into a single giant problem and then dealt with on a piece by piece basis all while you suffer pain and exhaustion. Phew, that list is bigger but I thought I would spare you! You can probably see now, anxiety and stress can build to a crescendo and result in whip lashing emotionally up and down.
Take A Pill, Have A Drink, Say A Prayer, Meditate, Be Positive
Now, I am not knocking these ideas as ways to cope with stress but I can say that they have all been suggested to me at one point or another along with others. By the way, thank you for the suggestions. I have some wonderful friends. I wrote a post about this very thing called, “Say Anything”. Still, sometimes they just don’t do the trick. Maybe I am short sighted? I just feel that sometimes, I just need things to be practical.
Yes, I could zonk myself out with a pill or alcohol but it doesn’t really help in the long term. As soon as you awaken from your stupor the problems remain and your “support team” is kinda left holding the bag while you indulge. So, I hate to do things like that. I even asked my doctor about a prescription but after speaking with him and friends who have medications designed to help with stress I decided against it. I would rather face my problems with all of my faculties in tact.
The spiritual side of me, as you probably have surmised by now, is fairly strong but sometimes I need a listening ear, an arm on the shoulder and words of comfort. It’s nice when you can share your pain with a friend and they don’t judge you. Sometimes people just need to get things off of their chest, right? 🙂
The Magic Pill
You know the saying, “There is no magic pill.” I hate that saying !!! ha ha ha!!! I want a magic pill !!!! Oh, and I want a free lunch too! 😀 Still, I have resigned myself to the fact that there is no magic pill and no shortcut although, I have gotten free lunches. 🙂 Maybe it’s time to use our creative juices and think our way out of this as much as we can. I have a few thoughts on the subject and maybe you can share yours.
Seize the Day! – Everyone remembers Robin Williams standing up on the the desk. 😀 It’s a cliché but that doesn’t mean it isn’t true. We have to enjoy life to the fullest. We have to try to fill our lives with meaningful moments. In fact, that’s my other idea.
The Swarm – Cancer is a magnifying glass of moments. Some of those moments are good some are bad….but if we’re honest… most are bad. So, if we try to create tiny moments of good over and over again then maybe we can swarm the bad moments with tinier good moments? Maybe that will help “balance out the scales” so we don’t whip back and forth emotionally so much.
Take a Break from Cancer – I’ve learned to do this. If you ever read on my FB page that I am “cancer free” for the weekend that’s what I’m talking about. I’m not gonna talk about it, think about it and, in fact, I will be ignoring it.
Give Yourself A Treat – Yup, spend an extra few coins on yourself or your loved ones and do what you love. 🙂 It doesn’t have to be expensive. My plan for today is to make David some root beer ice cream sodas. We had a tough morning….all of us… and I thought that might be the little moment to balance out the stress a bit. 🙂
Well, I put together a few thoughts but I’m sure you have plenty as well. Feel free to share them. 😀