Say Anything

Sometimes, life feels like a boulder lodged in a ditch. If you have cancer then I’m sure you “get” me. It’s sunny, warm and a nice breeze is blowing but you have the drapes pulled and you’re “hibernating”. Reality catches up with us sometimes and no matter what we do we cannot shake it. Β What’s worse, is when you’re in THAT “spot” things tend to pile up. You know, the giant medical bill for your scan comes in the mail or you fall or …. something happens to make matters worse. Of course, timing is everything and the one person who could make you feel worse does and says something crazy about your cancer. I think that boulder just sunk a bit. But,Β it’s the thought that counts and not the words you use to express those thoughts, right?! That’s why my attitude is summed up in two words. SAY ANYTHING!

Please Say Anything

I often read about cancer patients telling people what they can and cannot say. Don’t call it a fight because that’s violent or toxic. Don’t tell me to keep fighting because that sounds like I quit. Don’t say I’m strong because I’m not always strong. Don’t tell me I look good, don’t tell me I have courage and so on. You probably can make a list yourself.

I have to say, I’m different. You can tell me to keep fighting, call it a journey, hang tough….and so on. The thing is, and this is just me, but when I’m in a hole and somebody comes with a ladder then I don’t complain about the type of ladder. πŸ˜€ That’s how I see it. Having cancer can feel like you’re in a deep hole with no way out. Then the sun goes dark and you look up and it’s just the shadow of the person who happens to be standing in front of the sun who came to give you a hand outta that hole! πŸ™‚

So, for me, yes…call me a warrior, say I have courage, tell me I look well, call it a war or a fight or a journey. SAY ANYTHING!!!Β  Just say something! πŸ˜€ We’ll work out the details later. I am happy that this person has thought of me enough, AND overcome whatever awkwardness might exist, to express their care and concern for my condition. So, I don’t care what they say! SAY ANYTHING! πŸ˜€

Say Anything But Don’t Be Cruel

Now, I’m not advocating thoughtless and cruel speech. Let’s be kind and considerate towards each other. You know, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” ~ The Golden Rule. That comes from the Bible, did you know that? (The New Testament book of Luke chapter 6 verse 31.) I didn’t know that for a very long time. πŸ˜€ I love old fashioned ideas for living.

There’s an old fashioned phrase called graciousness. The idea is that we should allow each other to make mistakes, think the best of others, be courteous and so on. I am shocked and appalled at how many “cancer patients” are so calloused toward each other and have no care for their fellow man. They will say anything…literally and have no regard for the feelings of others! I know of many Facebook friends who are in “dark days” either physically, emotionally or both. One cruel word might send them reeling! I wouldn’t want to be responsible for that. My only thoughts are how can I help but, as it turns out, I really can’t. Not really. We are separated by time, distance and many times the inability to travel. What can I do? Well, I can be kind. πŸ™‚ I can pray for them. πŸ™‚ Maybe I can send them some small encouragement? As it turns out, no matter what small gesture I make, it is received with open arms! I can tell you this as well, when friends are kind to me it does wonders for me! It brightens my soul. I remember being in the hospital and checking Facebook and seeing so many kind comments wishing me well. It made a huge difference. πŸ™‚ On the other hand, cruel and calloused words wound deeply. I’m sure that I don’t have to tell you that.

My Promise To You

My promise to you is that I will always try to be kind, practice the golden rule and be gracious toward you as best as I can. πŸ™‚ And, if you choose to encourage me, don’t worry about saying it “just right”. I am thankful for your presence and your added effort to show your concern about my plight. πŸ˜€ Say Anything!!!

Have a happy day,
Ed – To use my images on your blog for free – Click Here
Visit Me OnΒ Facebook
Visit Me onΒ Twitter





  1. Excellent and well expressed! Thank you. Interestingly, your post is the third one with this theme that I have read today. And I had been tempted to compose a similar one myself early this morning. There must be something “in the sir” today – so to speak – that is realizing we need to think about all this. Wishing you well, Ed.

  2. I’m sure that I don’t say things “right”, and, I know I don’t say enough. BUT, you’re always in my heart. If I could figure out how to help ease this for you I would do it in a heart beat. I hate being long distance while the three of you face this beast that has invaded your lives! Love you Bro!

  3. Ed, I always enjoy reading your posts, but this one is just perfect! Thank you for your kind reminders and observations

    • Thanks so much for your kind words. πŸ˜€ We just all have to hang together and support each other as best as we can, right?! πŸ˜€

  4. Ed, you make a difference in the world. You pluck the strings of the eternal harp. You grace us all with your presence and your thoughtful work. Your blogs are like the mason’s marks that future people will find when centuries have past and all the world has moved and changed. Perhaps some day this disease with its ticking clock will be just a story of how things were in the past. Lets hope so but never forget the ones who ran the race. The race makes us remember how precious life is.

    • Lilly, that is such a nice thing you wrote πŸ™‚ Thank you so much and believe me… I took it to heart. πŸ™‚ Running the race with you is a privilege! πŸ™‚

Leave a Reply