So, after dealing with my latest bout of YUCK, Lisa and I were chatting on the couch. We realized something that shocked us. I rarely have a good day any longer. When I say a “good day”, I am talking about a day that I can walk at a fairly normal pace without exhausting myself, that I don’t have any GI issues and a day where I am not popping antacids every 2 seconds. I’m talking about a day that I can enjoy without thinking about my cancer. We figured out that it’s about 1 good day every couple of months. After we sat there for a bit I said, “Yeah, but Tuesday was a good day”. She rolled her eyes surprised. I know she feels the same way but she feels bad for me. I know this sounds a little crazy but it’s really how I feel. I wish I had more good days but I was so thankful for Tuesday. 😀
Good Times, Bad Times
You know I’ve had my share. I know some of you were waiting for that so, there it is. 😀 The truth be told, Lisa and I have had more bad times than good times but we’ve pulled together and found a way to live a happy life. 😀
Sometimes we talk about how other people have it so much easier than us. I will admit…sometimes we grumble about it. There are some who have gone through life untouched by adversity or barely touched. They have had tiny bumps in the road and almost everything works out for them. We’ve had it rough enough that sometimes I wonder if there is a road AT ALL!
In the end, all of this speculation about other people’s lives really gets us nowhere. I always remind myself and Lisa that happiness has nothing to do with any of these things. You see, you can have the world at your finger tips, riches, power…and no problems and yet not be happy. We all know that already, I’m sure. 🙂 All we need to do is look at the latest celebrity divorce or overdose to know that there is no “secret” to happiness…sorry Oprah. And…let’s not forget that those who have been barely touched, or not touched at all, by the trials of life will eventually get there. They will be touched by adversity and we should be there for them when the storms hit and not be happy that they have finally had to deal with what we’ve been dealing with for so long.
Tuesday Was A Good Day
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we never grumble or complain and that we don’t shed tears over our pain but, we really do try stay positive. This is not an easy task. I think everyone with cancer or other illnesses can relate. It’s easy to get dragged down.
So, Tuesday was a good day. It really was. 🙂 I was buzzing around like nothing was wrong. I even gardened and exhausted myself with no repercussions. Now, that’s rare. 🙂 How, you might wonder can we stay positive? Part of our happiness is a direct result of our determination not to let life get us down but also some is directly linked to our faith. If somebody gave me $20, I would be happy for the $20 and not unhappy that I didn’t have it yesterday and that I might not have it tomorrow. 🙂
It’s Your Move
I made this meme below because, at one point, I was dealing with a lot of garbage directed at me and I needed to put into words how I felt. For me, this is a very clear choice. It is my choice to either listen to the people who are not going through what I am going through or, instead, to make my own decisions and get through this my way. YES, I am going to see another specialist and YES, it is expensive and YES it will require traveling all over the earth. NO, I am not giving up and NO, they are not all telling me the same thing (that I’m a gonner) and NO, I cannot work and NO this cancer is not like every other cancer… It goes on and on.
You can listen to others or forge your own path, hack through the jungle and climb that mountain. Yes, rest….even put your fight on pause….but don’t give up. I have turned this idea into a meme and shared it. That’s part of my strategy in staying positive. I always try to be productive and useful in some way and, if possible, help others.
It is a deliberate and determined choice to be happy…at least on my part. The old saying that we should make lemonade when life gives us lemons is kind of cliché but still rings true for me. I may howl in pain and cry over my losses but sooner or later you will see me brush myself off and try to stand up. Now, sometimes I do need help but I never quit trying…and when I am weak…my wife is there…and when she is weak too…then our friends and family are there and finally…God is always there. 🙂 I will share with you something that gets me through my trials and gives me hope.
7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? 11 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him! (The Words Of Jesus)
I know that not everyone values the words of Jesus but I am a Christian and I do. 🙂 If you don’t, this will be short. Still, if you choose to read this part, you will gain some insight into what makes me fight so hard. 😀 I choose to follow Jesus which to me is the definition of being a Christian. If he says turn left then I do…this is an analogy! 😀 So, when he says to ask and pray and not to worry and that God loves me and cares for me….I believe it. Are you ready for “Throwback Thursday” on whatever day your reading this. Well, OK then….”He’s got the whole world in his hands.” Yes, sadly…I did go there. 😀 I trust him and know that in the end, he will do for me and my little family what is best for us even though I cannot see it in the midst of the storms of life. OK, I’m done. 🙂 Short, right. 😀
Fight Fight Fight !!!
Here is the last thing that I’m going to say. I hope that in your cancer fight you are able to keep standing and have a support group around you that cares for you and gives you strength. Family and friends and other cancer fighters are always great to have on your team. 🙂 If you have nobody, please consider me part of your team. I try to pray for everyone of my friends with cancer and I consider it a good thing when I meet somebody new on Facebook that joins my team too. 🙂 Let’s stick together and encourage each other as we slog up this mountain toward our cure!!! FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT !!! 😀